To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
Let yourself of the hook. Don't try to be perfect. Publish that project you have lying around. You will be the hardest judge on yourself. Don't let it get the best of you. There is always something which you can change or adjust.
We usually have our focus on analyzing level of wrongness rather than needs. If my partner wants more affection and attention we are internally evaluating this as needy and dependant.
Humans have two kinds of emotions. Positive and negative emotions. By nature humans are usually more sensitive to bad emotions. This is why you forget the hundreds of compliments but remember that one negative comment.
Be with a partner that is emotional stable and mature. He/she should have figured out his/her emotional problems and be mentally healthy.
When somebody says that this never happened before is no indicator that it may not happen in the future. When white swan's are observed, doesn't mean there aren't any black.
If you are on a caloric deficit in order to loose weight watch out for the small stuff you may do every day that will add up calories. If you put milk in your coffee that could be ok, but if you drink five coffees per day then this can add up.
Get out, walk, leave your house, drive somewhere, do something different.
If you look for the best way to quickly escape reality, read a book. It engages most of your senses quickly. When you read a book you fantasize about it, your eyes and hands are occupied with it.
Watch out for the minority rule. Once you have 10% or more woman at a party you cannot only serve beer. Most men although will drink wine. So you only need one set of glasses if you will serve only wine.
Nobody is leaving happy from a negotiation if both parties have skin in the game.