To my future child,
Over the years I have collected a lot of advices and kept the ones that are quite useful. Here are some simple rules so you can navigate the boring stuff of life and enjoy the less boring parts of it.
I hope that they will help you and that you may add some more to them, pass them along so people you care about will enjoy life with you, because a life in solitary and with no one to share what you know with, is a life not well lived.
If you don't react well to your children in a given situation, ask them what you did wrong and how it made them feel. The goal is for the children to express their feelings in a safe environment.
Lust, Attraction, Attachment are the three stages of love and hormones. First comes lust, then attraction and finally attachment
If you are on a caloric deficit in order to loose weight watch out for the small stuff you may do every day that will add up calories. If you put milk in your coffee that could be ok, but if you drink five coffees per day then this can add up.
Skin in the game is when somebody has both traits of an outcome. Positive outcome - reaping the benefits. Negative outcome - paying a price. You can't and shouldn't be able to transfer the risk.
Never try to strike a deal with someone you find morally indignant. If you gut thinks that this person is no good, trust it, it usually is right.
Humans care about narratives and a good story, but reality only cares about results and getting things done.
Always keep in mind that when you are trying to help there is a possibility that you are causing more harm.
When you have less, you are more antifragile to life. You have less to lose, less of a status quo to lose, less financial burdens, less psychological problems.
Everything we accomplish has a price attached to it. If you are famous you will pay rumors and gossip tax. If you have more than you need or things that others desire, theft is one possible tax you may have to pay. In light of success you pay taxes in stress and problems.
When you don't know what the job is about, hire somebody that is liberal and creative.